My only advice to you is that if you are serious about saving this M it will take a whole lot more than taking the position of "I'll do what I can with what I think is wrong with myself (doubtless she has other opinions) and she can take it or leave it and if she doesn't do one or the other soon, I will." C'mon - seven years of no intimacy. She may not have done her 50% but neither did you. BTW - marriage usually takes more than 50% of each persons best effort most of the time.
The people on this forum are smart, accomplished people, they don't ask questions for their own edification, they are usually to seek out a certain, specific type of information that they feel might help you. If you are going to over-protect and defend yourself here, we can't help. This forum is not for everyone. A Divorce Busting Coach can discuss potential strategies and solutions privately. Maybe not a bad idea.
