Like BF said, you can't score if you give the ball to someone else. All you can do is 'defend.'
I don't think BF is advocating that A work on this all alone. I see him saying, 'use what power you do have to your best advantage and see what happens.' A more proactive approach as opposed to a 'do nothing, wait and see what she does first' approach.
And as far as the NOPs go, yes, Mrs. NOP stepped up in a very big way, but NOP did start it, and he had to work at her quite some time, if I remember correctly.
