I cannot fix all of our issues on my own. Anyone here can accuse me of "placating" now. The reality of the situation is that if my wife or mysaelf decides to leave the marriage tomorrow, there is nothing that the other spouse can do to stop that.
There is something you can do that does work: that is change yourself so that you are more attractive. Not just to her, but to others. Please do yourself a favor and go to the search tab on this website, search the sex-starved-marriage forum for name=CSW and date range older than 1 year. Read CSW's history. He started out in pretty much the same place you did. NOPkins gave him good advice, he followed it to the letter and made a new man out of himself. His wife became attracted to him once again, broke off her affair and they are back together stronger than ever. Note, he did nothing to change her, he only changed himself. She saw the changes and realized they were genuine. You can do the same, but you need to be open to the advice here and to be willing to take a very critical look at yourself to see why she's leaving in the first place.
You might also read LordGrenville's current thread for the advice NOPkins is giving him. It is solid advice.
