One question: Why "don't [you] really have any hope of her coming back? It's great to come here so you can help understand what's happening. But why no Hope...do you WANT reconciliation soemday? You can learn and possibly come to understand what is happening mentall and emotionally AND look toward reconciliation in the future...many return, many don't. But many LBS's do not open themselves up for a retrun because they are the type who won't ever put up with that or trust again OR...the more common...because they feel there is no Hope.
