Anyway, this whole thing with d11 has me so upset I can cry. She is so young and innocent and I know that inside she is hurting so very much. I feel like s14 is the lucky one. He has detached with anger for now and maybe he will be ok.
I know how you feel about the kids, trust me I am in the same boat right now. Just be careful, with your S14 being detached with anger. Talk to him if you can. YOu don't want him growing up, thinking that if he just shuts down and not talk, that things will be solved.
My Son does this too. The therapist told me to take him out alone, and have a day date with him, then when he is comfortable, just let him talk about his feelings, and then , you got it, validate.
I hope this nes thread brings you some peace sugar!
