NOPkins,

I believe that Mr.G is able to (ahem) maintain his composure by holding his anger at the forefront of his mind. I know how this makes him appear to the general audience, when interacting in person, especially when related from Heather perspective, but its now obvious that he is not the monster he appeared. I knew Heather wasnt stupid.

I wanted to ask if it might not be a good idea for heather and Mr.G to continue communicating and their dialouge thru email rather then face to face, for awhile, as then he doesnt have to struggle with express himself verbally while continuing to maintain his composure, and she doesnt have to worry about his every naunce and gesture.

I remember Mrs.Nop was able to understand you after reading your words here, and HP did the same with Mr.H.
It was significant for x too.
I know its still avoidance, but maybe some babysteps?

Heather. \:\) Good stuff from H. Its ok to be scared, and good to maintain some protective skepticism. Be honest with your H in the same manner as you are here with us.