You are a tough cookie, make no mistake. I can see that. You have hard and fast rules on what marriage should and should not be... how behaviors should and should not go.
It sounds a bit different than your original post, though. I have to say. I'm getting two different people here, reading your initial post, and then your follow ups. Could be me.
You want help, yet you don't. You ask for help, yet reject it when it doesn't come in the form that maybe you expected. Hm. You like to hear that you are right, but reject what the men here have struggled hard and long for. Many of them have found success... but as a newcomer, you reject it outright.
I wonder why.
Not to slam you or pity you, I'm just wondering why you would reject, out of hand, what others here, men who have done excactly as you have before you... as pathetic or not worth your time. I've been around here for some time... been through my own shite... in my own right... have watched a NUMBER of men, much like you.... find their way... and I wonder... for someone new here... why you would slam the efforts of those you have not even taken the time to explore. I understand it if you have, and then you made some sort of logical decision on it... come to some sort of educated opinion on your readings... but these men, and women... have struggled, like you... and have found some measure of success. Some have not, to be sure.
But to dismiss them out of hand, does not go along with the intelligence and sense of fair play I sense in you. I would be sorely dissapointed were my instincts that off.
