TA - have you read the DB book? You CAN change a marriage, even if both parties aren't participating. There is proof all over this board.

I have to agree - if she has not left or filed, she's waiting.

And what would be so bad about you changing things for her? Especially if she is expected to change some of her behaviors.

Get the book. Read it. ;\)

....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am
I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon
~ Avril Lavigne ~
..."Nobody's Fool"...

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