On many of your comments I agree with you. I'm not sure if you read or understood my prior posts. If my wife is having an affair we're over, plain and simple. Other men might be OK with a spouse that has done this; I however am not one of those men. I would not do it, and I won't have a spouse that has or would do it.
As far as doiong something, I have done plenty, and I'm willing to do more, but not until she is willing to do something.
Did you not see that I'm not here for pity, nor am I wollowing in my misery, self loathing (?). I came here for help, not emotional support.
As far as the sex drive issue, that's back. Went to the doctor and found out that I had a low testosterone issue. Had the pellets installed in my hip (time release medicine), and I can say that I'd love to have a month in the sack with my wife, never leaving the bed except to eat and shower. My wife does not feel this way and I damned sure want beg and whine for sex.
I too have seen the one month for every year of marriage ratio to reconcile differences in a marriage. My two month number was an arbitray figure; I'd stay 22 months or longer if I thought there'd eventually be chang (and no I don't expect my wife to drive or be responsible for all of the change).
As far as doing the wrong thing, how so? I certainly might be, but I'd like some specific pointers on the correct things to do.
