Excellent what your H said. Inpain, hang in there, this is hard. And remember, men take much longer to heal than women... JG is still healing it seems and I've been mostly healed since the first 3 months we broke up. It's taking him much, much longer...
Men aren't as connected to their feelings as us. Yes, do read the Men are from Mars book. It's a great read.
Ok, what I was really trying to get you to work on was POSITIVE THINKING! You can create you own reality by focusing on the positive. That's why the gf's, GAL type things are necessary. They sort of help to let off the pressure from the M. H and you have room to breathe then.
THINK POSITIVE! Your SL was good before, it will take time, but it will get there again. It's only natural. Don't be afraid. Squash that fear by making your gratitude list everyday before you go to bed and when you wake up. Do it on the boards or write it down in your journal.
Positivity attracts positivity...that's the law, my friend. H is doing enough of dwellin on the "what ifs", so it's even more important that you focus on the positives.
And make a decision that Yes, YOU ARE GOING TO HAVE A MARRIAGE THAT WILL LAST 40-50 YEARS! YOUR SON WILL GROW UP IN A WHOLE FAMILY! YOU MAY HAVE ANOTHER BABY SOMEDAY...WITH THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE, YOUR H. Just make up your mind that this is what you want and visualize it happening everyday when you have a spare moment. Or set aside some time for yourself to do this. Also, go to your local library and check out some books or tapes on meditation. See which works for you. This is a gift you can give to yourself.
So positive affirmations and visualizations. Keep looking at your wedding pictures or happy pictures of the family and focus on that.... Then see it become real. Dreams do come true... Speaking from experience.
Sending you loads of love and positive thoughts. You are doing great Inpain. You've DBed successfully. You're a hero to us all here. We're counting on you. Do it for us if not for you! So happy that you were able to not get into ML convo with H and that he acknowledged. You guys are so meant to be...I can feel it. There is enormous amounts of love there dear....
((((hugs))))
rainbowlove ---------------------- JG is coming back to me sooner than I think and we're going to have a family. Positive thinking!
