If you want you marriage to work, you need to do the work. Fact is, she's still there, so it sounds an awful lot like she's waiting for you to do SOMETHING.
Listen to Corri, she is a very wise woman. We've seen several folks here bring back their marriages from the same edge you are on right now, and do it successfully. In order for it to work, you need to take full ownership of your part in this, and change yourself so that you become attractive to her. That means becoming self-confident, being the "man of steel", and stop placating. If you can find it, look for CSW's thread here (not sure if it is findable now that they redid the site, but rumor has it the old threads are still there, just not directly visible). CSW's wife was having a PA with an ex-friend of CSW's. Last we heard, they reconciled and have a much better marriage than they ever had. He too had a low sex drive, didn't initiate often. He listened to people here, studied and discovered how to jump-start his drive and become the "man-of-steel" that no woman can resist. You can do it too, but you need to put down the shields and listen to what folks are telling you here. We've seen it before, and your's is no different than the many who've gone before you.
So, if you want the support and help here, listen to those who are trying to help you. Embrace the notion that you have as big a role in the state of your M as your W does. Quit the self loathing, it is only going to drive her away. Also, 2 months is nothing. There used to be a metric bandied about here fairly often that said something like a month of honest hard work for every year you've been married is the MINIMUM time it will take to put your M back on track....and that's if you do everything perfectly with no missteps. I'll give you a hint, so far you are headed in the wrong direction, so much so that you don't even recognize a misstep. We're here for you, but you need to soften your attitude and be willing to put in the work (and be committed to making it work) in order to have any success at all. Otherwise, just file now and get it over with.
