Hi, LG.

Here is some more for you to digest.

- No needy/grabby/controlling gestures toward your wife.

- Do NOT pursue her.

- No relationship talk.

- No "I love you"s

- Eat.

- Get a job.

- Go out with friends.

- Exercise.

- Don't mope.

Here is what you say to her regarding the affair whenever she brings it up. "Wife, we both know what you are doing. Your betrayal of my trust and our marriage is very damaging." Make it your mantra.

Get Michele's book "The Divorce Remedy" and read up on the infidelity section, specifically "The Last Resort Technique".

I doubt you did much "wrong" during the counseling session. Your wife was not being honest. Hard to have a "heart to heart" when only one party participates.

All the best,
-NOPkins-

I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.

-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect.
-An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.