I certainly appreciate your position on working harder and longer to put your marriage back together. I hope and pray that your strategy works for you if you are going through a similar situation. It is a terrible thing, and a very painful/hurtful thing to experience. I have been there and I still am there. I have tried everthing I know of to try to get my spouse engaged in putting our marriage back together. I have been rebuffed on all attempts. All I need is a little willingness and openness on her part to work on our marriage. If that happened, I'd be 100% involved in anything to restore our marriage. I will not put my life on hold indefinitely for someone that does not know what they want. People seem to think that my poor wife hasn't had a husband that wanted her in seven years--that street runs both ways, for seven years I haven't had a wife that wanted me. She started this divorce process, and she can end it; I have no or very little control over the situation. She knows of my willingness and openness to work on our marriage. She has the ball, I will give her time to do something with it, but at some point, I will have to move on with my life. I am very surprised that people see this as me abandoning the marriage, with little thought as to what my spouse has done to begin this whole divorce process. The two months thing is an arbitray figure, I could wait for 22 months if I have hope. As of right now, I have no hope. I have accepted that I cannot do this on my own.
