BND, I completely agree. Same thing with me. totally shut out. I treated them better than their own kids.
Why call me your Daughter when you meant none of it.
You know ,it's such a common theme. And I know my parents would NOT have done that....so maybe there is a profile of issues of the MLC parent, too. After all, it is THEIR actions that planted the seed for the damage WE pay for. That is also what I find so outrageous. The IL's plant the seed, create the horrible damage and we get kicked to the curb...the only healthy thing in their life.
My theory is that they were bad parents and still are. And, like small people, will do anything to avoid blame and standing up as parents...b/c when have they done that before. So, as long as someone else is getting blamed for the kids' misery, and not them, they will support the finger-pointing. I know that is the case in my ILs case. They know the damage they did, and don't want to face. They love fially being the "good parents who sweep in to rescue...please forget what we did to you as ac hild."
Ugh. i hate it, it's like double rejection.
Funny thing, my parents, even after all of this, STILL adore my H. Still are so hurt and confused. They are real people, GOOD people.
