...It may even seem right now that things have taken a disasterous turn for the worse. However it's not over until it's over and it is very early days still so do not fret if that appears to be the case.
Thanks for your encouraging message, Fran.
I don't have much time to type, as my wife is getting home soon, and we live in a small loft space (only about 550 sq. feet) so there's not much privacy and I will have to add a lot of details when I can write tomorrow.
Basically, our conselor was trying to be a fair moderator and did a pretty good job, but my approach may have back fired, since I did not have hard evidence, and my wife was insisting that this OM is just a friend. She said she doesn't know him that well, but that "he is really nice" and she finds him easy to talk to. They met on a web forum that focuses on english prog/rock music, or something like that.
As I shared the information I had, she kept wanting to know where I got my info, and started to get upset thiking that I had gotten access into her voicemail, e-mail, etc. which was not the case. She was avoiding answering some questions, but she did admit that she was lying about the art history professor staying in the room with her. And then she finally admitted that the OM did go into her hotel room, but only so she could give him a music CD she burned for him, and had forgotten to take with her when she met him earlier to go to a NYC music store he had told her about. I have a really hard time buying this story.
My wife was saying that she now feels like every movement is being watched, and that my extreme controlling behavior makes her want to get her own apartment so she can live in peace without being watched or judged.
There is more to tell, and I am sorry I have to end it here for now, but thanks for keeping on eye on my thread.
Me 46 WAW 45 M 21 yrs
WAW: "I need to be alone" 12/06 W moves out 3/07 Mediation finalized 08/08
