Just saw your new thread, late to the party as usual. But at least I have my own lovely shoes.
About something you posted early on in this thread, IKWYM by not being able to walk away, seems I get little reminders about standing too, though more and more I believe it's just to be an example for others as opposed to b/c of any slim chance H would ever consider leaving OW2 and returning to me -- but that's okay too.
About the ILs, I have my resentment too about the acceptance, but H's family is and has been so D-prone that they are used to it. Knowing they accept OW2 as part of the family is very tough for me but I sometimes wonder, if they'd all slammed the door in her and H's faces, would it really have done any good in my sitch? Probably he would've blamed me, and the two of them would've had a united front against his family -- powerful stuff for a R. Hoping in time the hurt that some ILs wrote me off once I was out of the pic, and that if it weren't for my efforts the others probably would too, will fade away.
Meanwhile I continue to admire all your work on the house, etc. Keep up the good work.
