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Hi, Heather.

I think that it is an excellent start and written from your heart. I don't see any reason to rewrite it.

Deliver it from the heart, the same way you have written it.

-NOPkins-


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-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect.
-An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
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Heather,

I think putting the words "I'm sorry" somewhere in that letter could help. Saying "I hope you can forgive me" is not an apology.


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... forgot to say that I think he will be looking for those words.


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Hi, Cobra.

I think her actions are screaming "I'm sorry". The truck issue is major.

All the best,
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-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect.
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Thanks for the support, I'm so glad it was evident that it came from my heart.

Cobra, you're probably right. I'll edit it in.


"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."

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NOP,

The reason I said that is this was a technicality that blew up much larger than need be with my W and I. The intent is obvious, but we were each so sensitive that not including those small words communicated a “hedged” response. Heather’s H is focusing on her hedged position, keeping one foot out the door. It takes so little for her to simply say “I’m sorry” and close that suspicion in his mind.


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Heather,

I don’t mean to nit pick, but on some things it is important to nit pick. I think your letter is VERY good. When putting in the apology, do not make it conditional. Don’t say, I’m sorry, but if you hadn’t ____, or I’m sorry, what I was really trying to say was ___. Just say “I’m sorry” and nothing else. I am listening to your letter as I think your H might hear it, not as you mean to say it, KWIM?

You've done good today! I'm VERY proud of you!


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Cobra:

I knew, just KNEW, you could be a very kind, encouraging man. You should do it more often. It looks good on you.

Heather:

Kudos, to you girl. Keep the faith.

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Corri,

Now cut that out. I've work long and hard to craft this image!


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I know you can't see me, but I am standing, clapping, and cheering. I'm sure others may edit it, but it looks great to me.

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