Understand that you won't. It is not logical in any way IM. For my money I never wanted to understand what she was going through, seemed like it was hellish enough, if a crazy person makes sense to you...you're...crazy.
Don't be hopeful for a mini MLC. She can appear calm and confident at times when she needs to, when she is in an area that she is not confused about.
An MLC in the most basic terms, the way I understand it...comes about when issues that should have been dealt with in a person childhood were not. Those issues surface years later and rip the person's life apart, as that person now more or less reverts to a mix of adult and child mind frame to deal with this/these issues, this usually happens by an event to trigger the mind in realizing that something happned waaaaaay back when. To this...how can we blame the MLCer for crap that happned to them as a child?
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Look folks, it's hard to be "detached" when you're sleeping with the woman you love more than anything else in the world and she's telling you how much she loves you too. She wants to cook dinner for you. She wears your clothes. She massages your temples when you have a headache. She giggles when you kiss her.
All that stuff, you know. But she doesn't want to be married to you. She says things like she wishes she could stay in this 'limbo' forever. But the unspoken is that one cannot remain in a holding pattern for the rest of their lives. Gotta move on, no matter how much it hurts.
Dec 05 - Mar 06, very similar.
Go to go through to get better.
Don't be around so much, have a life outside of home. Will she go to C with you. You can set boundaries, which you can read about in the Resources at the top of the threads too.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
