I'm sure it is easy to read in the faces of family and friends, in how they interact with him, and he is sensitive to it for sure.
Maybe. He's shown his butt several times in front of my family since this all happened and that doesn't help either.
Unfortunately, someone usually does have to go first, and go first MANY times before the other one takes their turn
That's when two people want different things. If we both agree we want the M, then we both have to try. If you and your wife both wanted sex, then you both need to participate right?
There is hard, and sometimes crappy, work that will need to be done. Are you willing to do what it takes?
Yes.
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
