I would take anything that showed he wanted to be with me . Staying in a situation like we are in under the premise he's created is akin to getting married because you're pregnant. There has to be more there or you at least need two people who are willing to make it into more.
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I'm not laughing at you. The premise he's created.
Sweety, you are putting the cart before the horse. It's like asking a man on the first date if he thinks he 'in love' with you, and what will your first house you buy together look like? And the guy is sitting there thinking, 'whoa, can we get through the first few dates first?"
Whether or not he wants to be with you, you alone, is irrelevant. He wants to be in the same house with you, with your kids. As a woman, that is all you need.
Blackfoot often says that a woman is in charge of the R. And he is right, whether we women like it or not. You may have to put in some very serious time before the R between the two of you kicks in again, but why the hell as the woman would you ever allow HIM to control the R between you? It isn't the man's job, and they are lousy at it anyway. I will give you the current state of the R between you as an example.
He's committed. You can build on that.
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You've got what you've been hoping for, I think.
Do you really think so? Really, really?
Absolutely.
That doesn't mean it is going to be easy on you, if you stay. You are going to have to do a major mind/attitude shift if you intend to change the R between the two of you. But, you can do it, if you are willing to surrender power and control. Those two things are not part of a woman's arsenal anyway. They are 'male' in nature.
