Sorry guys, but this is two posts that I took from one section, to bring here. Well, we all know why we come to this forum, but im new here. I am married, I have 2 kids, and one on the way. I have a good career, that I am happy with for the most part. I am a family man, I take care of my family, being that I am the only one in my family that works. The wife was going to school... But, I just wanted to introduce myself. I have a son age 4 and a daughter age 3. She has told me that she is sorry for everything and that she don’t know what she was thinking, things just happened. Oh yeah, I have been married for 4 years, almost 5, and we have been together since 99. I started a thread, that provides all the detail to my problem. Ok guys, here is the reason that I am here. My wife started talking to this guy in October, she was calling and texting him. So I have this feeling that things are not right, so I check my phone bill(s) online, and that is how I discovered this. Well, I wonder why this number is popping up so much, so I check her phone for voice mails. Sure enough, there is one on there from this number, and it confirmed what I was thinking. It was another man.... So I wake her immediately to find out what all of that was about, and of course her response was o nothing. I tell her that I dont appreciate another man calling you. Anyhow, to make this story extremely short, we argue over the next few months about her talking to this guy. She remains firm on them just being friends. Well, I find out on the 11th of February that she has been having an affair with this guy. How do I find out? He sends me a message telling me everything. The message is titled "your wifes baby". Well, I ask her if she has been having an affair, and her response is "yes". Well, she is 13 weeks pregnant and says that its a pretty good chance that the baby may be his. Needless to say, after all this, im speechless, thinking why does this have to happen to me???? The bad thing is, is that they messed around from the end of october to the beginning of december. She didnt tell me and he decided that he would... She said that her first night cheating with him was a night that she left the house, (supposedly mad at me). When she left the house, she stayed at a hotel and that is when he came by.They fooled around about once a week after that… She said after about the second time that they stopped using protection. She knows absolutely nothing about this guy either. Can you guys please help me? For those of you that didn’t read my introduction, I have 2 kids already, and I was happy that I had a baby on the way, but it may not be mine. Please give me advice and what you think… If you need more info, just ask.
