He is convinced that my family and friends are telling me what to do, that they are encouraging me to leave him. He's right, they are. But I don't tell him that so I don't know how he knows. And my family would love nothing more than to see us work it out, they would forgive if I said he's willing to work with me on things and I'm happy.
I did notice as you did that he focused a lot on the children and not on you. I don't think this necessarily means he doesn't have feelings for you, just that "the children" is the lifeline he is hanging onto right now.
It's not that I don't understand that....it's just that it's not enough for me in a M. The kids have been his lifeline since they were born and I've been lost.
I'm afraid Heather that if you want to make this work, you are going to have to focus on soothing his fears for awhile.
I'm prepared to do that. I feel like that's what I need help with under the circumstances. I don't know how to come to terms with him that as much as I love him, I'm not willing to stay the way things are. We both have to recommit and stop waiting for the other to 'go first'.
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
