I agree, busy or not, I need to do something different. I would fall under the same heading as you TO, a pussy and a diplomat.

That is one of the things I worry about w/ DB, not blowing a gasket over the OM is just "more of the same". My W has always had close relationships w/ men, and I have tolerated them for all the right reasons, but I think it gave the impression that I didn't care.

I also like the martial arts idea. Although I have a very active outdoorsy job, it has been awhile since I did anything full contact. Played rugby for the first 9-10 years of our relationship. Very aggressive, very macho.

Ever since we started having children and my W pursued her current work, our roles have reversed. She is the high adrenaline, high testosterone person and I have done more of the kids and nurturing, and in the process have become a bit of a homebody, and certainly less of a manly man. I know that is why her initial response to begging and pleading was so negative and exagerated, and why initial response to DB was so positive.

Each time I stand up for myself and be the man, the ultimate response is positive, although the initial one rearly is.

I need to get back in touch with my warrior side. I am in good shape, but rugby is out of the question \:\) BTW, I have picked up Lord of the rings about 7 times in my life and never been able to get past the first chapter, I may need to try again ;\)

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Me 43, waw 44, 3 kids(D15,D12,S6)Married 19yr, together 27yr. Bomb 11/27/06, Separated 3/1/07 Divorce filed 4/18/07,

"Because it is in giving that we receive; In forgiving that we obtain forgiveness; In dying that we rise to eternal life" St. Francis