Same here. I think that a lot of women WANT to be WANTED. But that is as far as they need it to go. Acting upon desire is NOT what they want. My wife told me once that what she wants from me is to just be there, just be in the room. Going beyond that, to things that actually get in her personal space makes her UNCOMFORTABLE. Kissing, cuddling, petting, sex. They all make her uncomfortable. She just wants me present, just at the other end of the couch. She wants me to want her, just from afar.
