Now that may not be all bad, and I think I could throw you down like a rag doll and ravage you till you’re black and blue, but I’m not sure your prima donna H wants to have that pressure (well, if you call it pressure). So when you mentioned somewhere back in this thread that you weren’t sure how to be less assertive, maybe this would be an example.
ROTFLMAO- Very good. The posts from the men on my thread the last few days have been very instructive to me. At first I was very confused by BF's assertion that I was trying to "test" men by getting them to "top my top". It was confusing to me because that's not how it feels to me. To me it feels more like I'm doing the man a favor by "priming his pump". So I thought about it some more and I realized that if a man was in denial or out of touch with the link between his sexuality and aggression then he would react badly to such behavior from me because really what I'm doing when I behave in that manner is "taunting" the man into "raping" me. In my mind (or somewhere lower) it is just a ramped up version of playing "naughty". I'm picking a fight that I want to lose just like I'd be committing a transgression for which I wanted to get "punished" if I was playing "naughty". So I am expecting the man to be as much in touch with his "top" as I am with my "bottom" and that's probably asking a lot of a guy because I'm a very "bottomy-bottom" (kind of sounds like I'm a bunny again doesn't it-LOL). Anyway you get a gold "yum" star for your use of "ravage" and "black and blue". I would advise any man who encounters a woman who behaves in this manner to read the Serbian Mock Rape section of The Joy of Sex and go right for her ankles.
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Could it be that the quicker you can jump to the act, the lower the possibility of rejection and hurt? In other words, rejection usually comes about before sex occurs. By jumping straight into sex, you short circuit this possibility, and if you can get the guy aroused, the chance of rejection falls to nearly zero. So you feel safe and connected. So in this perverse way, could you be using sex to avoid the rejection of sex?
Interesting theory. It doesn't "feel" like that to me but who knows. Probably I'm too lazy and easily bored to just hop around waiting for some guy to chase me. Also as I indicated in an earlier post in my experience if you make yourself easy to catch it kills the guy's desire so you really have to do a lot of hopping to get a guy revved up. I guess I just like to "cut to the chase".
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
