Old school it may be, but it describes exactly what has gone on in our relationship and has given me an understanding of how we got to be in a SSM.
My H has cited that communication has been a problem for years. I communicate, I don't get listened to, I get sick of repeating myself, I withdraw from communicating with him and we end up fighting about not communicating. After 5 years of this cycle, I've had enough and I don't really feel any love for him, except for that as a friend. Maybe not even that. He doesn't see any problem with himself and thinks he is a wonderful communicator. His definition of communication obviously has nothing to do with listening and actually hearing what the other person is saying.
If the love isn't there anymore, is there any point in trying to rebuild the marriage?
It can't come quickly enough
And now you've spent your life
Waiting for this moment
And when you finally saw it come
It passed you by and left you so defeated.
Scissor Sisters - 'It Can't Come Quickly Enough'
