I remember when my husband lived with me and was in the midst of the A and about to file for D it was really excrutiating. Looking back I think the only thing that would have gotten me through it was to pull away, focus on me and just ignore him. There was a huge amount of tension in the house. It was a big relief when he did move out. But pushing someone out wouldn't be good DBing.

I know this is going to sound callous, but mentally I had to pull away and see my husband as a roomate or co-parent. I also had to digest the idea that he was in some crazy fantasy-land with OW and I had to just let him go work that out. In the meantime I expected nothing from him and just tried to have fun (something I had let slide after so many years of being wife and mom).

Definitely make yourself even more attractive... throw out any ugly underware, get black and red thongs, low jeans and make sure when you're bending down he can see them!!! Get some padded bras and tight low-cut sweaters. Start going out with girlfriends and don't tell him where you're going (dressed to kill!!!). Be mysterious... and try to enjoy it!!! Get your hair done (highlights?), eyebrows waxed, nails done and anything else you can think of. Shop a lot!!! (It's a good idea to start plumping up the "single gal" wardrobe before a divorce! ;\) And I'm not saying that's going to happen, but it never hurts to be prepared... and if there's no divorce he'll have one hot wife to show off!!!).