Well, my comment was on the heels of NJ’s comment:
That joy juice pump is an essential part of you and yours to keep and treasure. The problem is not that you have a JJP, it's that you activate it to full blast in response to negative crap from your H.
I was actually thinking that you turn on the JJP full blast not just to negative crap, but to any situation where you have hopes of getting male attention, like when you set your mind on seducing that 20 year old. Though I know we are playing a game here, the impression I got was whoa…. Mojo can really turn up the jets when she catches a whiff of maleness in the air. That sudden jump of assertiveness puts you in the top position very quickly, and if we were to take this game into reality, I would feeling like I have to top your top.
Now that may not be all bad, and I think I could throw you down like a rag doll and ravage you till you’re black and blue, but I’m not sure your prima donna H wants to have that pressure (well, if you call it pressure). So when you mentioned somewhere back in this thread that you weren’t sure how to be less assertive, maybe this would be an example.
I was also trying to understand what I was feeling from your quick, thorough and seemingly serious contract proposal. I think I was feeling a little off-balance. I also suspect you may have been feeling very much on-balance and in control. So I wonder if maybe this sexual aggression you show is really another form of defense. It is a strange one, to be sure. Most women use defenses to avoid the intimacy of sex, but I get the feeling you use sex to avoid intimacy. Could it be that the quicker you can jump to the act, the lower the possibility of rejection and hurt? In other words, rejection usually comes about before sex occurs. By jumping straight into sex, you short circuit this possibility, and if you can get the guy aroused, the chance of rejection falls to nearly zero. So you feel safe and connected. So in this perverse way, could you be using sex to avoid the rejection of sex?
