My L has been out of town for a couple of weeks so I haven't had the chance to talk to him about it.
H did hear d's C say that it was too soon for either of us to introduce d to anyone new in our lives. C said 1 year POST divorce before anyone should be introduced. H was sitting right next to me when the C said it. He followed the C advice for several months, but I guess now HE has decided d is ready. The C has offered to write a letter to give to my L saying just that-- but I think it would be just prolonging the inevitable. Once our D is final I won't have any legal right to keep Ow away from d anyway.
I have to agree with you that maybe giving H and Ow have a DOSE of REALITY is the best thing that could happen. Maybe it won't be so FUN once our d is spending every other weekend with them. Ow will probably get jealous that she has to share H with his d. This is why Ow said she left her xH b/c he paid more attention to their kids than her and these were own HER kids! Do I think she is the best role model for my d - Not at all....., but not much I can do about it unless she posed a danger to our d in someway.
What I am questioning is if I should tell H that I feel very disrespected and disappointed by his actions. I just can't seem to get it through my head that my H doesn't care what I think or feel so why bother! Maybe just for my own sense of dignity.
My older girls are doing fine. D14 has some friends over tonight , she is on winter break from school, D18 went out for Mardi Gras downtown with a few friends- will be home later, d7 has a friend sleeping over. Riley - Oh, he is our 4 year old black lab, he is enjoying all the company. He thinks he is a person!
