URGENT! OW had an abortion, H miserable

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Thanks for all the comments. H and I talked again and yes, he came out and said if anyone (not just me) pushes him to do something, he will do exactly the opposite. He felt very pressured yesterday when I called him in a "nasty" tone which almost turned the tide on him quitting on her. He said right now I need to give him space. This is hard to do but I will have to try because I can feel that he is genuinely intending to end the relationship. And yes, from our talk, I am guesing OW is getting desparate. Recently I am contacting may long lost friends to go out. Thanks for the advice of not having him move out. Yes my logical mind is saying that also. Just need my emotional mind to follow the same advice and not get angry when he's out. imLIN, you really help me in setting my expectation of how long this will take. I need to know that this will take a LONG TIME..... thanks.