Wow, that reminds me of my own sitch! My husband didn't plan to come back either but eventually he did. It can take months and even though the L word wasn't there we developed a nice closeness (very surprising!!! and more real than any word). Well, try to be patient. One thing that helped me with this was knowing I didn't want him coming back through that door until he was ready.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
