Thank you! Yes, that's the plan, to stop thinking about him constantly, and until he moved out, I was able to do that for short periods of time! So sorry to hear there's an OW on your scene too.
I have two wonderful friends who have been through similar situations, and I've wanted to post their stories here, so that others could learn what I have. They're another thing I have for "me" Ha! Ha!
My married friend went through a terrible time with her husband, she even divorced him and now they are re-married. So, there is hope! She and I have compared her husbands childhood with my husbands (we both LOVE to analyze) and we feel that horrible childhoods do contribute to MLC. We're not sure her husband had a "traditional" MLC, but severe depression for sure, which is the basis for MLC.
My other friend is a 44 year old single man. He used to live next door to me. He lost his long time job, and went into a deep depression. He was always over at our house, and for a couple of years just kind of kept to himself. He got behind in his property taxes, and wouldn't let us help him. He wound up losing his home. When the new owner came on the scene, I went over to chat with him, and he had me take a look inside the housetrailer. I just about keeled over! The whole place was knee deep in pizza boxes & juice bottles. There was a path to get from room to room. Mice had made nests in his couch. He'd been living there with no running water, heating with a kerosene heater, and no electricity on and off. My friend told me that he "snapped out of it" when he got the notice that he was losing the place. When I tell him what H says, he says he felt the same way, that he knows how he feels. We're both sure he had his own MLC. He's been a great support, and assures me H will come to his senses.
Both of my friends call me every day at least once, they're a great support, and I am so greatful.
