Danu, you have come here so prepared. I am in awe of you newbies.
Sorry about the pain, I just found out myself about an OW even tho i kinda figured she was always there, but when it hits you in the face, it is a whole different story.
You know what I'm gonna say dear heart.
Take hte focus off him right now. I now it's hard, but you will be able to.
a few minutes at a time, then anoter few minutes, and before you know it. Another day will be here, and you did it .
Take care of you sweetie, be gentle, and sweet to yourself.