I did not mean save I said"save". I am not speaking literally here. I am saying that the mlcer is weeker and I thought that is why we were put together because the LBS stronger. I meant it in terms of stopping the cycle with our mlcers but it is more important I know now to stop the cycle with our children. There I hope I explained myself better.
Now back to Lissett the runway model and Angelica's fancy night out. Of course can't forget BND and me practicing to be runway models or running around NYC hailing cabs.
I wish I could understand too how all this works. These moms refuse to beleive that anything could be wrong with their sons. I am sure they know that they did something wrong when they raised them but cannot admit it. But the whole process would be so much easier if they would try to understand and admit their own mistakes. Working this all out together would be the best solution for all.
Mermaid....I feel for you honey! I too feel exactly the same way! Ah well...mayb time will tell...
You are right when you say to stop the cycle with your children. At least you are able to recognize it and stop it now. I think you are on to something when you say that the LBS is stronger. LL said to me once that I was stronger than he was. I was shocked but I think they realize it themselves. Perhaps our MIL are mean to us b/c they too know that we are the stronger and it is a poor reflection of them and their mothering skills..not that we have criticized them but it is their own interpretation. Then they must take care of their "little boys" and we are the wicked women with which they have been paired like it was God playing a bad joke. Of course it is all hogwash.
You keep practicing on your NYC modeling skillz....Lissett will paint the town red with you in tow!
Hugs to you, angel-girl...
Valentine
Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day
"Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller
I have a son 20. He is kind. With God as my witness, and all of you of course, If my son ever does any weird WAS or MLC stuff, I'M ALL OVER IT and will kick his butt back home to work it out and suck it up....
Now, if he gets a wife like FIB or Bworl or Was2 had, then my focus will be elsewhere....but grandkids???? OMG, I'll be the world's best MIL no matter what the DIL is like....
Hold me to it folks, and I'll do the same. j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Yes ITA. If we were as emotionally weak as they are we would have walked away a long time ago. Oh well the crosses we have to bare but it will not go unnoticed.
So you are fasting. Me too but I have to eat soon because I am going for a run and I have to build up my carbs by tonight.
But I gave up chocolate for Lent. It is going to a very long 40 days for me.
Hello 25years, ITA if either of my two children pull anything like this crap I will be a supportive mil. I think it is possible to support your child through mlc but still be there for your in laws and especially your grandchildren.
First I have to buy a pair of very high heels and I will try running around here. Then I will join you in NYC with Lissett. All this talk of NY is getting my imagination going.
Now about all those children, I am sure we will think of something.
Just saw your new thread, late to the party as usual. But at least I have my own lovely shoes.
About something you posted early on in this thread, IKWYM by not being able to walk away, seems I get little reminders about standing too, though more and more I believe it's just to be an example for others as opposed to b/c of any slim chance H would ever consider leaving OW2 and returning to me -- but that's okay too.
About the ILs, I have my resentment too about the acceptance, but H's family is and has been so D-prone that they are used to it. Knowing they accept OW2 as part of the family is very tough for me but I sometimes wonder, if they'd all slammed the door in her and H's faces, would it really have done any good in my sitch? Probably he would've blamed me, and the two of them would've had a united front against his family -- powerful stuff for a R. Hoping in time the hurt that some ILs wrote me off once I was out of the pic, and that if it weren't for my efforts the others probably would too, will fade away.
Meanwhile I continue to admire all your work on the house, etc. Keep up the good work.
