Actually the irony too here is that they would be showing more love toward their mlc children if they admitted the truth and tried to help instead of enable them. It is just like what MGoBlue says about mlc being an addiction.
It can be emotionally exhausting to try to keep in touch with the inlaws but all the power to you for doing it. In the end though Faith you are so right blood is thicker than water and they will even chose their son over their grandchildren. Sometimes it is necessary to even go dark on the inlaws.
My ds do see my inlaws and therefore I do not have to make an effort for them.
We can only save ourselves and do the best we can by our children. The problem comes in not having our standing seem...out of desperation to them. That is my worry. Dad was a doormat...rather than Dad did the right thing.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
ITA. Sometimes it is better for us to stop wasting time and energy for those who won't reciprocate. It is better to spend this extra time and energy on those that love us and our children.
