I am not familiar with your stich, but you certainly provided a lot of wisdom for Inpain and actually, me too. So thank you. Heck, my W and I hadn't ML since June but I know we are not at a place right now to even consider that. I won't even consider that.
My W told me in January when I initiated a R talk that she doesn't think of me in a Romantic Way at all. I don't remember me making a reply to this comment but I did ask her to consider what D will mean to our 2 chilren who have issues already with ADHD. I did ask her if she would read the books on DB that I did, but she doesn't want to because she is not at a place to reconcile our M.
If I was in Inpain's position right now, I would feel a lot better that my M is on the way to be saved. I've been DB since October even though I sleep in the spare room (her choice) right now. I'm not even ready to share a bed with her because of her coldness towards me. She has threanted to file for D but still hasn't. She mentioned D since June.
Her dad, who is from divorced parents has suggested this to my W. Her dad is not bright IMHO and I know D will be hard on everybody in my family, especially the kids. I told my wife that to Love someone is a choice, not a feeling and she said she knew this. CY
