Also what did you do about saying ILY? I thought we were in a place where I could say it but I said it to H last night and he responded angrilly saying I thought we both loved each other. When I asked what he meant by that he said he felt like I'd only said it to pressure him into saying it back to me!!!! I was really shocked by his response.
Wow, that's pretty close to what my H said to me the other day when I asked him why he won't say ILY to me, he said "but you know I do" aaaack!!! Then again, it goes back to men are from mars, women are from venus, women need constant reasurance and compliments. For men, it is harder to talk about their emotions, so prob your H assumes you "must" know he loves you since he is home and he is trying. My H still doesn't say ILY even when I ask him, he tells me it feels forced when I ask him so I try not to say anything. So now and then, I do say ILY, he smiles and says something nice back, but not ILY. SIGH, i'm giving this a few more months I guess.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
