I dont know if its my style or the new format, but every since the new rollout, Ive noticed posts are not a personable.
I'm sure you could list a hundred reasons that you would think were valid for leaving a marriage but you just don't like mine because it's a little too close to the reason that your IMO totally b*tchy xwife chose. I sometimes get the vibe that you are viewing me as being like her but that just isn't the case because I have never cheated on a man in my life and I never will
I can think of lots of reasons to leave a marriage. Infidelity is way up there. Seriously, If my needs were not being taken care of I would leave. I do. Ive realized that sex really does nothing to add LU, but the lack of it quickly withdraws them for me.
I dont compare you to x at all, your nothing alike. Is it that time? and if so are you regular so I can keep track of when this is going to happen again. LFL Mojo needs some chocolate.
Your writing style and the obvious discrepancy between your board persona and your IRL one I find highly amusing. Your opinion on x is nearly the same as every female that knows me. The only exceptions are here on the forum. I guess I see her thru rose colored glasses because I just saw a confused spoiled brat. She pulled out the claws a couple times, but she readily put them away when given a choice of using them or being declawed.
back to you. I will accomplish all of this by the summer solstice or I will mark myself as a failure, leave this BB for good and continue to suffer in my, clearly, self-imposed misery. This is self defeating. Your placing a time limit on a a equation with endless unknown variables. you dont control your emotions or your H's. Your setting yourself up to fail. you cannot be a failure, in a equation with an uncontrollable factor. thats really negative internal voice. You can get as creative as you want with the descriptors, but its not going to change the human emotions.
What I want is absolutely reasonable and attainable as long as I don't have the fused expectation that my H wants exactly the same things what you want is reasonable. How you are going about it, not necessarily so reasonable. youve recently come upon a lot of inner value. Invariable that leads to retaliation for previous unreasonable expectations placed on us and being returned in kind with our unreasonable expectations. Thats not taking ownership for having failed to implement boundaries.
What I will not do is try to philosophize or punish myself for wanting what I want. good. I doubt it, but good.
There is nothing in that contract that my H isn't capable of choosing to agree to or not. Some of the items I will state directly and others I will simply enact as boundaries if that is possible your right. as long as he isnt human.
how you implement boundaries is just as important as doing it. If you implement them in such a way that your H is forced to be more top then you in order to satisfy it, then you just nullified everything you told me about looking for a woman that meets you face to face and gives from the ask.
