she is happiest when she is simultaneously both WANTED and FOUND TO BE SEX-Y, but isn't at the moment required to have any ACTUAL SEX with you.
Hey, choc! Yeah, there is some of that going on here. One of the things she said to me the first night I said the "I want...", was, "you know, I was feeling so good about us, and yes, even felt like making love, when you lied to me about driving with DD5 over to pick up your kids at ex's house..."
This is a strategy of hers: initiate sex in a way where it is impossible to actually have sex. The above statement fits with this by initiating sex in the past. Bear with me. The essence of what she said was, "I was ready, I was horny, I wanted you to ML with me, but, (not, "you did xyz") that was this moment minus x." In other words, imagine if Renee Zellweger had said to Tom Cruise, "You had me at 'hello'", and Tom had come toward her, and she said, "I mean, when you said 'hello' a week ago. Too much has happened in the interim, and therefore, you missed the opportunity."
The other way is to initiate it in a time/place where it is impossible to complete, such as, after hearing DD5 stir in her bedroom across the hall on Saturday morning. MsHdog does this sort of thing less often than the "time" limitation, above.
Yes, she does want to be loved, wanted, thought sexy, etc., at least to the point where anything is required of her in response.
It used to be quite bothersome, until I got to the point where I basically didn't believe her about these "safe" types of pronouncements.
