my mil never said a WORD to H about his lies and moving away. She never once called here unless H was visiting. What grandchildren? Who????
When H left, she fell off the side of the earth. Now as d17 is graduating, MIL says she cannot attend the graduation in 4 months, b/c she has dogs, and 'SHE DOESN'T HAVE MUCH TIME LEFT WITH THEM." What a nut. Her loss. And BND, before you get too crazy, be careful what you wish for. Maybe just thank God that she lives so far away....and maybe your H can see things differently about her too. Not mandatory. My kids think (I think,) she is either a bit crazy (which is true) and maybe mentally damaged, which I also think is true...either way, d17 told me recently that she kind of noted, that she is much closer to my family -mom came out to sit for them when I went to Hawaii, and my sisters, who email and call regularly. I recall thinking, "duh, my family makes an effort." I used to feel close to my bil too. Who? Not one call. The reconciliation seems to please them, but God knows it's no thanks to their "efforts." ???? Oddly enough the only one in H's family to keep in touch with the kids, was my fil the Vietnam vet...go figure. But it meant a lot to me, and I'll thank him someday soon.
oh well, I think we both have enough people who DO love us well and need our love in return....better to focus on them, than the idiots....never ever forget how far you have come. And if you get a chance, check out my post on piecing....thanks, j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
