I dont believe in LDwomen. I believe in Relationally LD.
I tend to agree with this also. That's what I meant when I said all sexual relationships will vary depending on the two people's makeup. But who cares when we are talking about M, right? We are with who we are with and we need to work with what we got. You are in a great position now to figure out a lot of your own sh*t so that you don't have M #2 self-destruct. It's obvious from what you have said that your ex was very HD. You were as well until the relationship crap muddied it all up. Typical. I think others have made some good points that you may want to "take it down a notch" in terms of your views of.....well...just about everything. Not to pick on you, and Nop, and Cobra, but those names come to mind when I think of people who are overly self assure, to the point of self-righteous. Many women will rebel against that as we have seen. Nop seems to have worked it out and kudos to him. But that is certainly not typical. I am really not trying to be an Azz here, I am trying to give you some constructive feedback. Too much Alpha is the kiss of death. You need to look for happy medium. Maybe that is what IHJ (sorry NJ) meant when she said being with an "ultra top" would eventually cause some psychological damage. She can jump in here and answer that herself. But for now I'll answer for LFL. I think that initial attraction to that type is hard to sustain long-term because eventally, as much as the woman wants to be a sexual "bottom" it would turn her into an unwilling psychological "bottom." Maybe your ex was tired of your strong persona after a while because she was not seeing any vulnerability, care, tenderness, etc. Most women (I think) want and need that.
