Not to speak for BF or anything, but I read what he posted to you as saying "my xW's A and our subsequent D was very painful for me, but I thought I might be able to help get you to see different perspectives by relating my feelings and actions to you."
Nobody is giving up on you here. But everyone is struggling mightily with our own situations and that is bound to bleed through in what we post to you. Cobra is taking a very agressive approach in his M, so here he is being very agressive with you. I'm Mr. Placater, so here I am ... ummm ...
The deference to NOPkins is because he is a success story, and because it is plain to see he has spent a lot more time than anyone else here researching and thinking about A's, their after-effects, and plans to deal with them. While those of us who did have A's think about it a lot, he has the unique perspective of an "outsider looking in", i.e. not having had an affair himself, he can look at the situation more objectively than someone who has.
No one will give up on you. We all care about you very much, especially since you are at such a pivotal moment in your life. I know I fear giving you wrong advice, so I'll just relegate myself to the occasional pat on the back and "keep the faith."
I wish you the best,
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
