I'm trying to figure out what my H's actions and words mean. I found out about his A two months ago and during that time, he has been sitting on the fence. I think at first after he told me that it was such a relief and he was on this emotional high. We were getting along and ML with passion... Things were looking up but nothing was changing as far as his R with OW. Sooo, we started getting in more arguments and attacking each other. He questioned me about EVERYTHING to do with our R and I questioned him about everything to do with his feelings for OW. He asked me :Why did I neglect him? Why did I make him feel bad about himself so that he had to seek out affection someplace else? All of the typical stuff they say.
Now, for the past couple of weeks, he has been talking about how he has to break it off with the OW but just can't bring himself to do it. His questioning of me is more of: do I think we can ever work it out between us after all of this pain, etc. In the meantime, we are not ML as often, he still talks and sees OW and they profess their love to each other ALL THE TIME! H acts very distant towards me and most of the time I have to say ILU first now.
I am trying so hard to DB but crashed and burned SEVERELY last week before and after VD. We've had quite a few nasty arguments over the past week where I've mentioned throwing in the towel. In the past couple of days, I've tried to pick up the pieces and start again. Did I blow it??
