If I were you I would go to those sales. STOP babying him. He will learn eventually to do for himself. If he threatens to quit his job because he doesn't have a hot meal then say something like, " hmmm well then you will have to figure out how the mortgage gets paid then." It's kind of like maybe he is using this to control you because he knows it causes you stress and keeps you in line. Kind of like him pretending he couldn't hang up his coat.
See my husband also use to act like he was unable to do things. I started working was was doing 95% and him doing 5%. I simply made a stand and told him I am working and also going to school he needs to help. One day I was studying and he came in and asked what was for dinner. I said I don't know why don't you go look, I hadn't planned on cooking tonight I am busy. Ya know what he found something to cook and prepared the meal. I simply stopped doing some thing I use to or don't do them as often. More and more he is starting to step up to the plate.
