Hairdog, Your last post reminded me of something. There was a point in my LDness that I felt guilty about the lack of sex, and I became nicer in other areas as a way of making up for it. I wanted to generate good feelings bc I felt bad about the issue inside.
Looking back, I have to say that was a step forward in my growth process, having the awareness that I should feel sexual. I just wanted my H to love me for who I was.
My opinion is a little different from what's been suggested here ( to keep hitting her over the head with the IWTMLOAW). I feel you should stay on message ( ohterwise you are perpetuating the illusion that everything is fine), but I feel you should simultaneously reassure her of your love for her, but that this is truly a need. A need that she doesn't get or understand, but a need nonetheless.
My H did not push the issue; perhaps he sensed I was too sensitive over the whole thing and he wouldn't get anywhere. Years later I do believe he had at least an EA at work. Don't let this be you.
