I really value your post, they have helped me so much. Just after my husband and i seperated and were trying to reconcile, he told me that one of the problems was that he just wanted to make me happy and he didn't think he could do it. I told him that it was not him and that i had just got myself in a bit of a rut since D2 was born. The reconcilliation only lasted 1 day, he seemed to have this wave of depression on his face the whole time, and then ended up running to OW.
By me acteing happy and upbeat infront of him, which is what i have been doing for a while now, will this not just justify that he was right in the beginning and that in his eyes i am much happier without him?.
I dont know if you have been following my thread, but it has been 6 months since the bomb which came out the blue. Lately my husband seems to be ill alot and quite down. He is still very pleasant to me and gives me hugs and kisses when he leaves etc, but no mention of missing me and D2. Is this normal in MLC?. I also wanted to add that i have been reading some of Silent Son and my husband definantely shows traits, he was always a conflict avoider keeping his feeling to himself. He still does this now.
Nicky
Me 34 H 33 D3 together 10 years married 2 years Bomb 22/8/06 (I feel empty) OW involved
