I remember a few months ago when you just wanted to give up. We agreed that you would take it a few months at a time and re-assess at that time. Since then, I do see a lot of positives in your sitch and in your interactions with your H. Yes there will be times when he will withdraw because he is scared and confused but you know this so don't let it affect you. When you see this happening, pull back a little. Remember to follow his lead.
I do agree that H is watching and observing so Girl, you do your thing because I have faith in your sitch. If there was OW, I think he would be acting differently, uncaring and ultra selfish as is in Christy's case or mine. I do think it may still be about 6 - 12 months away but patience is a virtue and if you've made it this far, you can do this. Don't look at the long-term goals, make short ones, 2 - 3 month intervals.
I think small doses of "together" or "family time" is what works right now. When he's not around, it sounds like you have so much going on to keep yourself active and busy so use that time for yourself and the kids. I love your goals and isn't it great how easy it is to use colours now.
Anyways Sweetie, if I can still hold onto hope with no contact with my H, YOU certainly can because the positives are so obvious to us. Remember though not to set expectations but rather continue to note those baby steps.
Ok, another late night as I try to catch up with everyone but I need to get some shuteye.
Much love,
Me: 49 - S22 & S26 H: 41 - No kids M: 10/00 Bomb New Year's Day 2006 H living w OW 01/07; have baby 12/07 D final 07/07 Thread #9 - Hope Lives On
