Still in the fight

[Heywyre]

If something is to remain in good working order, whether it be your car, a house, or your R/M, it needs maintenance, it doesn't maintain itself.

However 8, I see where you are coming from and if you don't have that "maintenance" coming from her side, there is no hope (at least that is the way I would feel). I finally gave my H the ultimatum - there was no ands, ifs or buts, it was her or me, make your choice. I was lucky (I guess) and he chose me. He said there was never a question or doubt in his mind that he would never leave me (my sitch is a little different in that the OW was an escort - but this is the second time he has done this - a long story nonetheless) however, I wasn't about to stand by while someone else had the better part of my H.

We are now on a very, very long road to recovery and don't know from one day to the next if we will survive it but we are giving it our best shot (or at least I am - can't say the same for H because I am not in his mind but he does seem to be trying)

There comes a time with each and every one of us when we have to decide whether to pull the plug or not - no one can make that decision for us