Yes, I have a separate account with a liitle socked away. We are fortunate to have no credit card debt either. My H never believed in paying interest fees. That's the one thing about him, $$$ was always a priority for him. No debt, live within our means. I'm happy about that part at least for now, but I will heed your advice and monitor it very closely.
Thanks, All day I thought about it and finally just decided that I was going to let it go. I am making changes for myself right now. I still feel like this is a strange horrible dream. I am going to make it, I have to for ME. I am holding hope that he'll miss me and want to at least have a short conversation after two weeks. I will wait and see...
What I find is how topsy-turvy the whole world feels. I look at people and wonder, "Are you FOR my marriage or AGAINST it?". It feels like promises don't matter, that everything is relative that nothing is solid.
It's, in my opinion, one of the most significant encroachments of broken-ness, evil and darkness into our lives. It doesn't seem random -- it appears willfull and unconcerned with our welfare. It's betrayal. It's maddening. In most operas, it leads to some tragic triple murder.
You will make it for you, OB. You will be the emotional, spiritual and physical equivalent of the bionic woman: better, stronger, faster. ;-) I'm dating myself, here.
And, as a better, stronger, faster, sexy, charming amazing woman, you will be happy -- with or without him.
And, there's a very good chance, maybe even better than 50/50 that he'll turn around and go crazy over you. And guess what? You get to choose! Won;t that be delicious?
And, there's a very good chance, maybe even better than 50/50 that he'll turn around and go crazy over you. And guess what? You get to choose! Won;t that be delicious?
How do find the strenght. I want to not care, I won't to be mad, I want him to sufer and feel my pain. I have no idea, if he has ven shed a tear for me
Over breakfast, let the pain wash over and through you and then take a small step to do something that makes you happy in that moment only! Try not to think ahead to an hour from now or tomorrow. I've had moments where I didn't think I could go on but I had to pull myself off the bed for my son and make myself happy for that moment and to make him happy. It's soooo hard but you can do it! baby steps for yourself only first though!
Me 31 WAH 30 M 5 Together 14 years S 4 divorced 7/11/07
