So sorry you are feeling so down. As you know, all of us on this type of site are in the same boat you're in, even though it for different reasosns. You have stated that your D has gotten the short end of the stick and I believe you. Has your D had a frank discussion with her father about all of this? Has she said things along the line of "Don't you love me dad? Give him reasons why she feels she is missing out on her love and that she needs her father? Anything that might make him feel guilty and maybe make him think. CY
